Tuesday, July 13, 2004
* WARNING *
TO PARENTS IN HAWTHORN
SCHOOL DISTRICT *
* ASK FOR PYSCHOLOGICAL PROFILES BEFOREYOU ENROLL YOUR FIRST GRADE CHILD!! *
ALL elementary school teachers should be given random psychological tests every two or three years, and should be removed from teaching if their psychological profiles reveal that they are prone to abusive behavior, or that they are able to condone abuse of any sort as a means of forcing a child to bend to their will.
Experience and EXPERTISE at bending children's personalities, emotional torture, and blackmail are probably not attributes you would look for in a woman who was going to be teaching your first grade child.
There are military guards on trial right now for doing those things to prisoners in Abu Ghraib prison, a maximum security corrections facility in Iraq!. Even prisoners of war are entitled to better treatment than this teacher accords her own daughter......yet District 73 will allow her to have control of YOUR children in the coming year and you won't be there to see what she does to them.
BLACKMAILING AND COERCION are particularly ugly methods of forcing a child to bend to one's will, and neither seem like admirable attributes in anyone, and especially not in a first grade teacher.
There is an elementary school teacher who regularly subjects her daughter to mental cruelty and emotional abuse, and has done so for the last five years, in the privacy of her own home, out of sight of the public.
If the public knew about this, she would not be a teacher at Hawthorn Elementary, she would not have custody of her daughter, and she might even be a candidate for continuous therapy and analysis, and maybe even an extended stay at an asylum, with mandatory ongoing therapy if released.
Do you want her having control of YOUR child!!???!!!
Her victim is her daughter.
The parents of young children who are about to enter the first grade in Distrit 73 should know about the behavior of this teacher who may be granted control over their children by a school district which knows nothing of her personal psychological profile.
Before now, no one has spoken of her other side.
What follows is not a fairy tale of a beautiful princess locked in a tower by her evil, jealous mother. It is not even a nightmare.
It is the truth.
It is a personal accounting of the abuses and cruelties and invasions of personal freedoms and privacy perpetrated by a hate-inspired first grade teacher against her own child.
It is up to the parents of children who attend Hawthorn Elementary School to decide whether they want to place their children in a situation where this woman is still teaching first grade despite her continuing misuse of her own child as a pawn in an angry divorce, and her frequent abuse of her daughter as the focus of her anger.
Instead of encouraging a healthy, normal relationship between the father of the daughter, she prevents such contact, despite having been directed by a court-appointed mediator to allow it and encourage it. In the past, she allowed the father and daughter only one phone call per week, but it had to be made on a speakerphone so that she could monitor the call and direct her daughter's answers. When she decided the call was over she took the phone from her daughter and began to verbally abuse the father in the presence of their child.
This woman is a first grade teacher. She has control over a new group of little children every year. Do you want your child placed in her custody???
She allowed her ex-husband and his daughter to meet on very infrequent occasions for a quick dinner or a cup of coffee, but insisted on attending those meetings and became openly abusive toward the father in public, again in the presence of their child.
The first grade teacher in question would never allow her daughter to communicate with her father via email, and she never allowed her daughter to write private letters to her father. She dictated the content of the very few letters she allowed over the last five years, and she would not even allow her daughter to address or mail the letters she had "written".
The first grade teacher has unknownable reasons for trying to hide the father's address and telephone number from the daughter. The father advised his ex-wife several weeks in advance that he was moving to California to start a new life. She didn't bother to tell her daughter about his move until five minutes before they met for the last time at Starbuck's in Vernon Hills. This shows her disregard for her daughter's feelings and emotional needs, yet she is supposedly trained to be understanding and compassionate. Is this the care you want for your child?
During that last meeting, the first grade teacher was unable to contain her rage began her final, loud, public derision of her ex-husband. The daughter ran out of Starbucks in tears. The father followed her to comfort her. The first grade teacher followed him and ordered their daughter to get into her car.
The last time the father and the daughter ever saw each other was as the car raced away into the darkness. The daughter managed a tiny wave which her father returned. Their final meeting had lasted less than ten minutes.
Is this the kind of compassion, understanding and nourishing care you hope that your children will receive every day?
The father paid the first grade teacher $60.00 for his daughter's school pictures. She cashed the check, took the money, but never gave him any pictures. He hasn't seen any pictures of his daughter for two years. His daughter went to the Prom this year. He couldn't be there to see her on that important event, or any of the important events in her life because the first grade teacher is determined to eradicate the daughter's memory of her father.
He didn't even know that she was going to the Prom - he has not received any uncensored news about his daughter for almost five years, and has received no news about her for two years. He hasn't been able to speak with her teachers. His daughter can't talk to him about her dreams, interests, joys, troubles, or about anything at all.
He hasn't been able to be a father for his daughter because his ex-wife is deternined to inflict constant pain on her ex-husband even though the daughter is always the innocent victim caught in the open when her mother begins "shooting". It is a one-sided war. She wants to cause him constant pain and sadness and achieves that goal by keeping his daughter away from him in spite of the great emotional damage this has done to the child.
The first grade teacher is always "shooting" at her ex-husband, and is not at all concerned that she is also hurting their daughter.
The "shooter" has been a first grade teacher in Hawthorn Elementary for several years.
She continues to inflict more damage on her child every day and is aware of the consequences her war against her ex-husband have on their daughter, but chooses to make her child suffer.
When the father sent letters or gifts to his daughter, his ex-wife, the first grade teacher, intercepted them all. The money and gifts never reached the daughter. The letters and cards and postcards were either thrown away or censored by the first grade teacher, who probably blacked out whole sentences with a large, permanent magic marker. The first grade teacher then read the letters to her daughter, omitting the parts she had blacked out. Everyone except the first grade teacher still wonders what happened to the money he sent his daughter for Christmas last year. Obliteration of the things she disagrees with or dislikes is her normal mode, so she may have even used an X-acto knife to remove the parts of the letters and cards which she didn't like. She has apparently disposed of most of the letters and gifts he has sent his daughter,
His letters were open expressions of love for a daughter who had been torn away from her father by an angry wife who obtained a two year order of protection against the husband by lying to the police. She then had the order renewed, keeping with her plan to hurt her ex-husband by denying all opportunity for the father and daughter to continue their loving, happy relationship. The order has finally expired and the court has been asked to disallow any further renewals.
The fact still remains that SHE was the only person in that family to commit physical, verbal, mental, and emotional violence, and she committed them against her husband and her daughter. She is still committing mental cruelties and emotional abuse against her child.
That woman is preparing to take control of your children's lives for a large segment of every school day in the coming year.
Almost two years later, when the daughter finally did contact the father via an email link on a website he had established in the hope of communicating his feelings to his daughter, she expressed love for him and happiness at being able to communicate with him, but she also expressed great fear of being caught.
She was caught. How she was caught is not known, but the first grade teacher and her new husband seem to devote fanatical amounts of energy and time policing every move this seventeen year old young woman makes. They may have installed software on her computer which allows them to read all of her personal emails and Instant Messages.
She is an honor student. A pom co-captain, a leader against drugs, tobacco, and alcohol. She is an exemplary person.
She is trapped in a gilded cage.
The response of the first grade teacher when she learned that her daughter wanted to have a loving, healthy relationship with her father was to tell her that she was going to be thrown out of the house as soon as the school year ended and she would be forced to move to California to live with her father and would have to graduate with a class of strangers.
What would she do if she became angry at one of your children?
The first grade teacher swings between not allowing any contact with her father to demanding that the daughter get out of her house and live with her father in California!
This bombshell of cruelty was dropped on her as she prepared to take her final exams. Someone wiser than the first grade teacher told her that she would be guilty of child abandonment if she made good on that threat.
The court was made aware of her loose interpretation of her legal responsibilities as a parent. The court is being made aware of her continuing actions as they pertain to the well-being of the daughter.
The first grade teacher has sold the former family house, and blamed her daughter because the father learned of the sale. The house had a large Coldwell Banker sign in the front yard, and the father has friends in the old neighborhood who told him about it. A photo of the house was posted by Coldwell Banker on the internet, along with the price, and all of the selling features.
The first grade teacher has decided that it is the daughter's fault that Coldwell Banker didn't use "stealthy" means to sell that house. Why would the first grade teacher think it might be necessary to hide the sale of the house from her ex-husband who lives 2,000 miles away in California? Why does this first grade teacher have a need for furtive real estate transactions?
Although the father learned of the imminent house sale from friends who live in the neighborhood, the first grade teacher surmised that the daughter had told her father and as a result of that incorrect supposition, the daughter lost her driving privileges, her cell phone, and her ability to use the internet. To the first grade teacher, if she believes that her daughter is guilty of something, then she deserves punishment.
One wonders how you parents of her prospective students feel about this type of thought if it were your child she suspected of some imagined wrongdoing in her classroom?
During the teen years, when normal parents are granting their teenage children more responsibilities and freedoms, the first grade teacher is busily trying to bind her daughter tighter than ever with a never-ending stream of arbitrary rules.
Now, at the time of this writing, the first grade teacher may have made it clear to her daughter that if she has any additional contact with her father, she will be evicted from home on the very day that she turns eighteen years of age, thereby preventing her from graduating with people she has known since the first grade. It is consistent with her thinking that she would threaten to deny needed financial support for her daugter's college education if she has any further contact with her father.
The questions which need to asked of this particular first grade teacher are best asked by trained, impartial professionals whose training prepares them to delve into such an angry mind.
The questions the father still has are:
"Why does she dislike her own child so much?"
"Why is she so willing to hurt her own child just to continue her campaign of hate against the father?"
"What punishments does she inflict on children in the relative privacy of her classroom?"
The father wants a normal, healthy, unmonitored, normal relationship with his daughter. That is all he wants. He wants no contact of any type with the first grade teacher, her new husband, or any other aspect of their lives.
As a response to this open letter, the first grade teacher will probably threaten her daughter, accusing her of having made new contact with her father. She will likely revoke privileges and invoke punishment for things her daughter never did.
It will be important for the Hawthorn School District and the community to get involved and assure that the first grade teacher doesn't use this letter as justification for new cruelty and abuse, and to assess the first grade teacher's psychological and personality profiles before she is given responsibility for 25 little children when the new school year begins.
Another question for the PTO and the members of the community whose children could end up in her class is:
"What is it about the way she treats her own daughter which gives them confidence that she can provide a warm, nourishing, enjoyable educational experience for their little children?"
The first grade teacher should be tested by as many psychologists as are necessary to determine why she continues to mistreat her own child, and also to determine whether how this person is able to fulfill the emotional and educational needs of your children in her role as their first grade teacher.
The first grade teacher needs professional help so that she can be made to understand the great harm she is doing to her daughter, and finally put an end to the torment of her child.
If you had the choice, would you REALLY choose to place your child in a classroom with this particular first grade teacher knowing that she has NEVER passed even ONE psychological test?